“Indeed none who wait for you shall be put to shame…”
Psalm 25:3 has become a bit of a mantra over the last few months. As you can well imagine there were many times and situations where I had no idea what to do.
Let me explain. First, I committed affairs against my wife, but this didn’t just happen one day. It took months and years of the enemy working and me agreeing with him to get to that place. By the time I confessed I was so deceived and broken that I didn’t know what to think. Second, I thought I was following Christ for years and perhaps to some extent I was. However, doing it my way simply led to despair and destruction. So I didn’t know what to trust or think. Finally, wanting reconciliation and healing was a tough road to walk. I didn’t know what to do other than cling to Jesus and be close to Amy. Over the days, weeks and months there have been many moments of not being sure what to do or how to proceed.
At some point I came across Psalm 25, verse 3. Essentially when in doubt wait. Wait on the Lord to reveal what is next. If this verse is true, we will never go wrong when we choose to wait on God.
I quickly learned that this doesn’t mean we go play golf hours on end while we wait or watch countless sports (I know, very male focused. Women please insert your time wasters). That’s a waste and dishonoring to God. While we wait on God there are two things we should be doing. First, you need to be seeking fellowship with Jesus, and you need to be actively seeking His Kingdom. Another way to say it is…you are to love God and love people while you wait.
As you wait for the Lord, seek to be in fellowship with Jesus. Make knowing Him your passion. Look for His beauty all around. Read the Word and contemplate His holiness. Think about His amazing love and your position in Him. Take time to rest in His presence. All of this will not feel natural, but over time it will make sense. Slowly you will understand how to rest in the Lord.
Next, as you wait be active. There are so many things you know to do without a special word from God. Love your wife. Pray for her. Take her out. Engage your kids, and enjoy them if they are still around. Go spend time with others, pray for them and encourage them. Get things done around the house you’ve been avoiding. In this God will bless and train you. He will start to show you the way to go.
This is how you wait. You will not be put to shame when you wait on the Lord. In that waiting He will refine and train you. In the end you will love and enjoy Him so much more. As a matter of fact you will enjoy your wife more, your kids more and all of life more. When we rest in the Lord while we wait we get to enjoy all the good things in our lives!