Day 0: Confession of an Affair
“What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?” – Romans 8:31
I’m still learning to hold to this. The day you confess or your spouse confesses to you that they have been having an affair remember this! Gather all the faith you can to hold onto this trust.
The first couple of weeks my wife asked me so many times, “Do you believe all things are possible with Christ?” Sometimes she asked it with confidence, other times she asked in despair needing me to believe for her and yet other times she asked in anger because she knew that I was not by faith holding to this promise.
God has fought for you and for your marriage in Christ. He will empower you as you fight for your marriage, your spouse, for your kids and for your own self. He loves you and wants your life, marriage and family healthy and full of life.
When you are in the darkest moments remember God is for you! He loves you perfectly and that all things are possible with God.
Our story is not your story. We didn’t do this all “right” but by God’s grace we stayed at it. His love and grace carry us through each and every one of the stumbles along the way. No matter the pain, hug and hold eachother especially when it hurts the most or when you have no idea what to do!
This past year I confessed to sin in my life that caused the deepest pain in my wife and wounds that only the love and blood of Christ can heal. Since the day of the confession God has been performing miracle after miracle in our lives.
This site is an attempt to be an encouragement to other couples on a similar journey or for those who know people on this type of journey. So many have helped us on our journey and we feel a strong desire to help others through ours.
There is no way we would be where we are at apart from Christ, this is of utmost importance. I tried to write some of these things down a couple months back but I couldn’t. The only answer I had was Christ. The Spirit nudged me a few weeks back to start writing so it is time to uncover the nuggets of wisdom to share.
Secondly, I am married to the most amazing, godly and faith-filled woman. Her self-sacrificial love and complete forgiveness is the second reason we are where we are at today! Proverbs 18:22 says, “he who finds a wife obtains favor from the Lord.” Apart from my salvation I have no greater blessing than my bride.
There are others too I must never forget because they have and continue to help carry us through these difficult days. Some were intimately involved with the process and others kept believing in us despite not knowing what was going on. I am forever grateful for all of these friends.
Many say affairs don’t happen over night and its true. Mine started decades ago when the wounds first happened and when I was first introduced to pornography. Little did I know as a child that the seeds of sexual addiction were sown.
My prayer now is for the Spirit to guide my wife and I as we share so God may be completely glorified and that others may be encouraged in their journey.
If you are in the midst of recovering from a confessed affair know that there is hope for restored love!
We will soon have much more content. Our prayer is that as we have seen the miracle of Christ in our marriage that you would see the same! Don’t Give up! Fight for your marriage.