Learning to Wait

“Indeed none who wait for you shall be put to shame…”

Psalm 25:3 has become a bit of a mantra over the last few months. As you can well imagine there were many times and situations where I had no idea what to do.

Let me explain. First, I committed affairs against my wife, but this didn’t just happen one day. It took months and years of the enemy working and me agreeing with him to get to that place. By the time I confessed I was so deceived and broken that I didn’t know what to think. Second, I thought I was following Christ for years and perhaps to some extent I was. However, doing it my way simply led to despair and destruction. So I didn’t know what to trust or think. Finally, wanting reconciliation and healing was a tough road to walk. I didn’t know what to do other than cling to Jesus and be close to Amy. Over the days, weeks and months there have been many moments of not being sure what to do or how to proceed.

At some point I came across Psalm 25, verse 3. Essentially when in doubt wait. Wait on the Lord to reveal what is next. If this verse is true, we will never go wrong when we choose to wait on God.

I quickly learned that this doesn’t mean we go play golf hours on end while we wait or watch countless sports (I know, very male focused. Women please insert your time wasters). That’s a waste and dishonoring to God. While we wait on God there are two things we should be doing. First, you need to be seeking fellowship with Jesus,  and you need to be actively seeking His Kingdom.  Another way to say it is…you are to love God and love people while you wait.

As you wait for the Lord, seek to be in fellowship with Jesus. Make knowing Him your passion. Look for His beauty all around. Read the Word and contemplate His holiness. Think about His amazing love and your position in Him. Take time to rest in His presence. All of this will not feel natural, but over time it will make sense. Slowly you will understand how to rest in the Lord.

Next, as you wait be active. There are so many things you know to do without a special word from God. Love your wife. Pray for her. Take her out. Engage your kids, and enjoy them if they are still around.  Go spend time with others, pray for them and encourage them. Get things done around the house you’ve been avoiding. In this God will bless and train you. He will start to show you the way to go.

This is how you wait. You will not be put to shame when you wait on the Lord. In that waiting He will refine and train you. In the end you will love and enjoy Him so much more. As a matter of fact you will enjoy your wife more, your kids more and all of life more. When we rest in the Lord while we wait we get to enjoy all the good things in our lives!

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Indeed, none who wait for you (the Lord) shall be put to shame… – Psalm 25:3a

Over the last several months, as my wife and I are healing from my affairs this verse has become a bedrock for me. There are and will be days that just suck as you and your spouse heal. The enemy will attack and try to destroy the healing that is taking place. Not only will there be difficult days but at times you won’t know what to do or how to respond in certain situations. Then to top it all off you will be longing for the healing to come much quicker than what it is.

Within the first few weeks of my confessions my wife read through the Psalms a couple times and I read through portions of it. This verse over and over again has stuck with me, and has taken me back to a better place when things get difficult or I don’t know what to do. Through the course of all this mess I have learned that I just need to hold onto the Lord. I need to cling to Him and wait for Him.

This verse gives me assurance that if I don’t know how to act or move forward that I just need to be honest about it and wait for the Lord. He will come through, He will guide his children as they trust in Him. We must, however be willing to wait. That can be the hard thing. It takes faith to trust this verse to be so. As you take more time to wait instead of rushing forward it will become easier and easier to wait. In America we are taught all the time to be in control and to be people of action. In God’s economy we become a people who wait and let God take action for His glory. When we do that we truly learn to live and be filled with joy as He miraculously works.

God is in control of your healing process, so wait. He will turn the destruction of your affairs or the betrayal in your life into something beautiful as you wait. He will not let you be put to shame. Have confidence and wait. Let God come through for you…He will!

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